August 28, 2019

The Enneagram is Bogus & other misconceptions about the Enneagram

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While the Enneagram has ancient origins, it is new for many people.

In the last couple of years, the Enneagram has moved into popular culture. You hear about it on all platforms of social media. There are more and more books written on the subject and workshops offered around the world.

With its increasing popularity there is a growing number of critics and doubters. In the context of increasing information coming out about the Enneagram, I want to counter the notion, that the Enneagram is Bogus.

Here are eight misconceptions about the Enneagram.

August 24, 2019

4 Signs that you are dating a Narcissist

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The beginning of your relationship is so exciting! Sometimes you are so smitten you lose yourself in the relationship. It is at this time you more likely going to get caught in a relationship with a narcissist.

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Dating a narcissist can tear your life apart unless you find the courage to leave. The trouble is that the longer you are in the relationship, your boyfriend will suck the self-confidence out of this.

If you find yourself in one, it is not because you are bad. Narcissist are often very good at manipulation. They will start to take control of you even when you are not aware of it.

Once you realize you are in a destructive relationship, don’t be afraid to get help. There is no shame in seeking help.

Before you date, learn some of the signs of narcissism. Here are three signs that you are in love with a narcissist.

August 16, 2019

Nine Reasons Why You Have A Harsh Inner Critic According to The Enneagram

August 16, 2019/ REL Consultants (Roland Legge)/ Roland Legge

You have an inner critic! It will never go away.

You have a choice to stay in the control of your ego or risk following your inner instincts.

Your inner critic wants to be your friend. Your ego likes the status quo. Your inner critic wants you to keep to the familiar so it can stay in charge.

The secret is to begin to befriend your inner critic. Let it know how much you appreciate its desire to keep you safe. Reassure it that you are now an adult and can take good care of yourself. Over time your inner critic will quiet down.

The Enneagram is an excellent psychological-spiritual map that can show you how your inner critic tries to control you. Each personality type has a different message and relationship with the inner critic.

July 16, 2019

The Top 3 Reasons Using the Enneagram For Couples Builds Stronger Relationships

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You want the best relationship possible with the person you love. You want to be heard, respected, and loved unconditionally. Being heard, respected and loved is all possible if you are both committed to making it happen.

Using the Enneagram for couples builds stronger relationships. First, it helps you to be more self-aware. It helps you to accept and love yourself. It helps you to take 100% responsibility for your own behaviour.

Taking responsibility for your own behaviour invites you to focus on what you are capable of changing. This being yourself!

July 06, 2019

The 3 Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

July 06, 2019/ REL Consultants (Roland Legge)/ Roland Legge

Are you hungry for love? Many of us will look for a person to complete us. The reality is that no one but our self can do this. Why? Because you are one hundred percent responsible for your own happiness.

You are two whole people going into your relationship. You're there for each other to create a nurturing environment – nudging you both towards health and wholeness.

What do you desire in a relationship? You likely want intimacy, trust, safety, playfulness, encouragement, love and compassion. But are you both ready to take one hundred percent responsibility to make it happen?

Relationships should not be hard, but you will go through rough times. Are you both prepared to learn through the ups and downs of your relationship? If you both can say yes to this, you are ready to begin the adventure.

June 01, 2019

Why Is It Hard to Connect with God When Things Are Going Well?

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You know life is going well for you! Your dreams are coming true. You love your job. You are in a great relationship. Everything is going well. Why with all this good happening in your life, does it feel like something is missing. Maybe it is your relationship with God.

April 20, 2019

The Thirteen Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

April 20, 2019/ REL Consultants (Roland Legge)/ Roland Legge

Falling in love is easy. Unfortunately falling in love has a way of blinding us to reality. When you are desperate to be loved, you will be tempted to accept any person who comes along.

First, you need to watch out for signs for poor emotional, mental and physical health in your partner..

A good relationship consists of many qualities. But for you to recognize these qualities you need to be open and healthy yourself.

A good relationship consists of:

April 13, 2019

How Enneagram Types Impact What You Observe in Your Self (And Others)

April 13, 2019/ REL Consultants (Roland Legge)/ Roland Legge

Do people you love drive you crazy because they don't see your concerns? Maybe your husband sees a messy house when it is not a big deal for you. Perhaps you are trying to help by washing the dishes, and your mother keeps complaining about how you do it.

You see and experience the world in your way. Each of us sees different things depending on our personalities and our levels of awareness. It can help you to learn how enneagram types impact what you observe

Your Enneagram type will give you insight into what you are more likely to notice and what you are less likely to see.

April 03, 2019

Fifteen Inner Critic Quotes That You Should Never EVER Believe

April 03, 2019/ REL Consultants (Roland Legge)/ Roland Legge

You have an inner critic which is part of your ego! Your ego is trying to keep you safe. The worst thing you can do is fight it. It will only make things worse.

Are you aware of your inner critic?

It takes time and practice, to become aware of this negative voice within you. You are so used to hearing it; you think it is speaking the truth.

The more you can become aware of your inner critic the more choice you will have in how you respond to it.

March 13, 2019

How to Manage the Most Common Challenges of Life Transitions

March 13, 2019/ REL Consultants (Roland Legge)/ Roland Legge

Right from birth, you are going to experience transitions in life. It starts at the beginning of life at birth.

Can you imagine the shock you must have felt being birthed into the cold world from the cozy, safe home of your mother?

After birth, you go from one transition to another. They include: Your first steps. The first time you rode a bicycle. The first time your parents left you with a babysitter.

Then there is the first day of school. Puberty, when your body starts to go through many physical changes. First serious relationship. Leaving home. Going to university. Marriage, becoming a parent, being fired, moving to a different community, empty nest, retirement and death are all part of life’s journey.

Your goal is to manage the challenges of life transitions as best you can.

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