How To Make Your Life After Divorce Truly The Best Years Of Your Life

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How To Make Your Life After Divorce Truly The Best Years Of Your Life

Moving through separation and divorce is one of the most challenging things you will do in life. But once you are through it, it is time to re-imagine your life for the next chapter.

First, you need to acknowledge your part in the relationship. How did you enhance the relationship, and how did you hinder it.

If you do not learn your lessons, you will repeat them until you take full responsibility for your behaviour.

If you feel stuck after the end of a relationship, do not be afraid to get help. Seeking help is a sign of strength and not weakness. It is now time to let go of your past relationship, accept it for what it was and focus on what you need to learn.

There are many places to get help. Divorce coaches and counsellors can help you through the immediate pain of separation, and coaches such as myself will help you re-create your life.

What dreams do you have that have gone unfulfilled unto now? Post-divorce is a time to focus on what gives you life, stop procrastinating from following your dreams and then make it happen.

Here are 9 ways to rebuild your life:

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How To Tell Your Boss You're Quitting (Even If It's A Job You Deeply Love)

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How To Tell Your Boss You're Quitting (Even If It's A Job You Deeply Love)

How to tell your boss you're quitting. First, get clear in yourself as to why you are leaving. Maybe you received a better job offer; it is perhaps because your spouse got a new job and you are now moving to another city; perhaps it is because your boss is bullying you.

If you loved your job, let your boss know how much you enjoyed your time with the company. If you are going to miss working for the company, let the boss know.

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13 Ways Your Inner Wisdom Shows Up On A Daily Basis

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13 Ways Your Inner Wisdom Shows Up On A Daily Basis

You are born with wisdom. You are wiser than you think!

You have access to your inner wisdom through your three centers of intelligence. When you are physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually healthy, you have access to wisdom that comes from the sensations of your body, the emotions of your heart and an openness to something greater through your quiet mind.

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How To Start A Daily Habit Of Talking To God

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How To Start A Daily Habit Of Talking To God

Talking to God can help you to be your best. But before we go any further in this conversation, I invite you to reflect on who God is for you.

God is energy and spirit that connects us to everything animate and inanimate on earth. God not only connects us to the world and also to the universe.

God is expressed through love, justice-making, and through each of us, even you!

If you explored all the world's great religions, you would find many beliefs and values in common. However, each religion has its own unique story of how God continues to animate the world.

No religion or belief system knows everything about God because God will always remain mysterious and surprising. Talking to God should open you up and not close you down.

Every time you try to control God, you are imposing your belief system on others. Before you know it, you will be claiming that you have a unique line to God and that you can never be wrong.

Self-righteousness is dangerous. Hitler and Mussolini are examples of what happens to people who think they have a special relationship with God and believe they know the ultimate truth.

Once you have a sense of who and what God is, you can begin to build a practice of talking to God every day.

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How The Enneagram Stress & Growth Lines Should Be Read

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How The Enneagram Stress & Growth Lines Should Be Read

The Enneagram symbol reflects how your energy is constantly shifting and changing. Even in a minute, your sensations, emotions and thoughts can change in dramatic ways. Your enneagram stress and growth pattern can help you to find your flow.

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Why Am I So Lonely? I Wanted My Relationship to End & Now I am Miserable

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Why Am I So Lonely? I Wanted My Relationship to End & Now I am Miserable

You were in a long-term relationship, and It did not have a happy ending. You could not wait to end the relationship. Now you are out of the relationship, and you ask yourself, why am I so lonely.

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When To Quit Your Job So You Don't Lose Your Sanity (And Your Self Respect)

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When To Quit Your Job So You Don't Lose Your Sanity (And Your Self Respect)

You need a job! We all need jobs to survive. Sometimes we must work in jobs that are not our first choice. You may find satisfaction through volunteer work or hobbies.

If you are in a position where you face abuse, feel unappreciated, feel taken advantage of or are poorly paid, it may be time for you to leave.

Do not forget that you have great worth! You deserve to be treated well. Do not allow anyone or an organization to destroy your life.

Only you can know when to quit your job. Your body, your heart and your head will let you know when the time has come. Your only responsibility is to listen and act on what you know to be true.

The good news is that you have great wisdom within you. Your challenge is to learn to access your inner wisdom through connecting with your three centers of intelligence. Your three centers of intelligence are:

· Body (Sensations)

· Heart (Emotions)

· Head (Mind)

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How Your Fear Of Change Is Keeping You From The Life, You're Meant To Live

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How Your Fear Of Change Is Keeping You From The Life, You're Meant To Live

Change is a constant. It will never stop. If you want to follow your dreams, you will need to overcome your fear of change.

Often it is the voice of the inner critic that gets you in trouble. The inner critic is that part of your ego that wants to keep you safe by keeping to what it knows.

Your inner critic was necessary for your survival when you were an infant and child. However, it becomes a problem when you reach adulthood if you are not aware of how this negative voice impacts you.

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Developing A Practice To Listen To Your Inner Voice (Once & For All)

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Developing A Practice To Listen To Your Inner Voice (Once & For All)

You have wisdom within you, and this is the voice of your true self. With practice, you can learn to notice and listen to your inner voice.

You have an inner voice whether you are a practising member of a religion. It is given to all people regardless of their ethnicity, age, religion, gender, sexual orientation, or philosophy.

I am a coach and a teacher of the Enneagram. The Enneagram is a language that can bring all people together. It is more than a personality tool that can help you to access your inner voice.

Your inner voice arises from a direct connection with the energy that connects everything in the universe together. Some people call this God. Some people call this spirit. Some people call this oneness.

No matter what you call this higher power that connects all of life, animate or inanimate, together, it is real and accessible to us all. Listen to your inner voice, and you will find your purpose.

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How To Read The Enneagram Diagram Like A Pro

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How To Read The Enneagram Diagram Like A Pro

The Enneagram diagram reveals the powerful teachings of the Enneagram. It provides you with a path to physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health.

Exploring this powerful image shows you a path to your best self. It helps you become self-aware, and with practice, you can catch yourself before you move into unhealthy behaviour.

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